You are a queen. A queen knows her worth at all times. She values herself, appreciates others, and exudes confidence, never arrogance. A queen accepts her flaws, because she knows there is no such thing as perfection. A queen demands respect, because she always gives it in return. A queen knows that her destiny is pointing in the direction of greatness. A queen moves with class and grace. She’s royalty so it’s the only way she knows how to move. So now that you know you are a queen everyday make it your business to think like a queen, know that you’re beautiful like a queen, and to move in the direction of a queen.
He hurt you. He lied to you. He cheated. He did you wrong and broke your heart. Instead of allowing your heart to heal, you have held on to the hurt that he caused. From relationship to relationship you have carried the pain he has put you through. One bad ex has had this much power in your life for so long. Maybe that should change. As a matter of fact, it has to change. It’s not even an option.
If you want to find the right one you have to open up your heart to the possibility of learning to love again, and you can’t do that until you put behind you the hurt from your last relationship. Not every man is out there to break your heart and do you wrong. There are plenty of good men out there waiting on good women. Don’t let anyone tell you any different.
In order for Mr. Right to come into your life, you have to let go of Mr. Wrong. You cannot allow what Mr. Wrong did to you five years ago affect your new relationships. You are giving him too much power! He’s not worth it. A queen like you deserves the best, and in order to find the best, you have to be at your best. Being at your best includes letting go of bitterness and hurt form a man who never deserved you in the first place.
Hair, Hair, Hair. Every black woman has her own story and experience. To weave or not to weave. To perm or not to perm. The beautiful thing about our hair is that it comes in so many different textures, and we can wear it in so many different styles. We have the choice to express ourselves by choosing styles that represent our personality and who we are.
It irritates me when I hear some black women push others to only wear there hair natural or to not wear weave. The reality is what works for you may not work for the next woman. If Tasha wants to wear a perm then she has the right to do so. It doesn’t make her any less of a black woman for wearing a perm in her hair. It’s a preference. Her preference may be different from yours, and guess what….that’s okay.
I’m not big on weaves but I don’t knock the next woman that wants to wear one. If it looks good and makes her happy who am I to knock it? Who am I to say hey you can only wear your hair in braids or in a curly fro cause that’s what a black woman’s hair should look like…NO! We have to stop putting ourselves in a box, and allow people to be individuals. At the end of the day we are women of color. No hairstyle is going to change who we are and where we come from as a race. Being black is who we are, and not what we put on our head.
The C word. The word that is used in every relationship. Yes, that magical word “Compromise.” Yet so many couples have such a hard time doing it. From something small such as what restaurant to eat at or a larger issue such as when to get married, compromise is a tough thing to do.
When we are in a relationship the reality is it’s not all about us anymore. I know, hard to hear right? When you have your time and energy invested in building a future with your man, sometimes you have to bend. What you want may be great for you, but it may be terrible for your relationship.
It’s the small things that make a difference and you have to show your man that you are willing to go outside of your comfort zone and do things that he likes to do. So what you hate action movies, but he has watched plenty of romantic comedies with you that he didn’t want to watch. A lot of times we can get caught up in me, me, me. But a relationship is about US.
If this is the man you are planning to marry one day, only thinking about what decisions benefit you will only hurt your relationship in the long run. Compromise is about meeting in the middle, and finding what works for the both of you. There is always a middle ground to meet at. A relationship is about give and take. You may be the taker at times, others you may be the giver. If you have a man that loves and cares for you it’s all worth it in the end, because you know just as you will compromise for him that he will do the same in a heartbeat for you.
As they say friends are hard to find. People who genuinely have your back and will be there for you thorough your best and worst times are rare. That’s why it’s important to take the time to nurture those relationships with the ones you know will be there for you no matter what.
Yes life gets hectic and busy. It’s easy to get so absorbed in our own lives that we tend to forget the people that matter most. There are those moments when all a girl needs is her best friend. The one you can tell all your secrets to. The one that has seen you walk around at home without your hair combed, and wearing tore up pajamas. The one whose shoulder you have cried on a million times. The one you have laughed with. A good friend is hard to find so cherish and appreciate her for being there for you when you need her most.
What do you put on daily?
If it’s hot outside do you like to wear sandals, or have a favorite maxi dress that you like to put on?
When it cold do you put on a scarf to match your outfit, or do you like to wear a nice pair of boots?
Do you have a lipstick that you love to wear that makes you feel pretty?
Everyday you put things on the outside that make us up and present us in a pretty package. But, have you ever thought about adding new things to your wardrobe?
I’m not talking about something you can buy. I’m talking about adding things to your mental wardrobe? One of the things ever woman needs to add to her mental wardrobe is confidence. Without your confidence that outfit you took time to put on and make pretty doesn’t matter at all. It doesn’t matter how expensive your red bottoms are, or what latest new outfit you’re rockin for the day.
Being confident is not about that. Superficiality has nothing to do with it. Confidence is not about convincing other people that you’re enough. It is about reminding yourself that you are beautiful, worthy of love, and made in God’s image.
Confidence is knowing that you don’t need anyone’s approval, but knowing in your heart and mind that you are more than enough. You don’t have to compete with another woman, or try to be better than the next one, because on the inside you will know that you are amazing being you. No one else can do you like you can.
So when you are putting on your outfit for the day, don’t forget to add an accessory from your mental wardrobe. It will make a big difference.