As women of color we need to stop waiting on the world to recognize the beauty and power that we possess. The reality is that it’s probably never going to happen. Once we begin to recognize it for ourselves, what others think of us will no longer matter! We don’t need validation from magazines or the media. From the array of our beautiful brown shades, to our curves and variety of hair textures, the moment we embrace our true beauty is the moment we become free.
“What I think is exciting is that, to a certain extent, there is a revolution happening where black women are owning their own beauty, despite the standard of beauty that in the past has not had space for it.” Tracee Ellis Ross brainyquote.com
The older we get as women, the more we need to realize the importance of taking care of our bodies. Eating healthy and exercising isn’t always easy but it’s something that must take priority in our lives. According to goredforwomen.org, “The African-American population also tends to have higher rates of obesity and diabetes, which puts them at greater risk for high blood pressure and heart disease.” As black women there are plenty of diseases that we are genetically prone to and get at much higher rates. Scary isn’t it?
Incorporating exercise in your everyday life is a good way to get started. Even if it’s just thirty minutes a day, getting more exercise in your life can do wonders. “Regular exercise helps prevent or manage a wide range of health problems and concerns, including stroke, metabolic syndrome, type 2 diabetes, depression, a number of types of cancer, arthritis and falls (mayoclinic).” Find ways to get yourself moving. Whether it’s joining a gym, or signing up for a dance class, there are plenty of different ways to incorporate more physical activity in your life.
The important thing to remember is that you only get one body. If you don’t take care of the first one there isn’t a store on this earth where you can go and buy a second one. That’s it. You only get one so it’s important to take better care of the only one you have.
I don’t think there is any other hairstyle that is more versatile than braids. Black women from all different walks of life and ages have worn braids for decades. You can dress them up, dress them down, put them up in a ponytail, whatever your preference, you can always find a style that you can make your own.
From little girls wearing cornrows and beads, to a womewearing zillions, braids will always be a staple hairstyle in our community. From the easy maintenance to the self expression and the versatility, us black girls will always be proud to rock braids whenever we choose.
“Loving oneself isn’t hard, when you understand who and what ‘yourself’ is. It has nothing to do with the shape of your face, the size of your eyes, the length of your hair or the quality of your clothes. It’s so beyond all of those things and it’s what gives life to everything about you. Your own self is such a treasure.” Phylicia Rashad
“My greatest beauty secret is being happy with myself. I don’t use special creams or treatments – I’ll use a little bit of everything. It’s a mistake to think you are what you put on yourself. I believe that a lot of how you look is to do with how you feel about yourself and your life. Happiness is the greatest beauty secret.” Tina Turner
“To me, I always felt like I was carrying a torch for women of any size to be themselves – it doesn’t matter whether you’re a size 2 or a 22, just be who you are.” Queen Latifah
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It’s easy to get caught up in our busy lives. We have to do this at work, or there is an assignment that’s due. The kids have practice after school, or you have to make it to yoga class by seven. There are plenty of things in our daily lives that keep us busy. During our busy and hectic days it is God that keeps us, protects us, and gives us mercy and grace. In the midst of it all it’s important that we remind ourselves at the end of the day to take the time to be thankful.
There are plenty of women out there who have unknowingly been in a relationship with a married man. Don’t feel bad. It happens to the best of us. It’s easy to get mad at yourself and ask how could you have been so stupid or how could you have not known? The reality is a lot times married men who cheat on their wives are manipulative a**holes. There are some married men who literally live a whole different life that their wife knows nothing about. I’ve heard stories about men having a secret apartment, going by a different name, and all kinds of crazy stuff! Don’t blame yourself for his schemes.
After the initial shock, you can pull yourself back together and prepare to move on. One of the keys to getting over the heart break and utter betrayal is to stop feeling sorry for yourself. Yes you dated a married man and didn’t know, but guess what, you’re the lucky one. You don’ t have a ring on your finger from a lying cheating man. You’re the one that’s in the clear. You can cut him off and move on with your life and find a man who actually knows what it means to be faithful.
Meanwhile the wife is the one that has to deal with a husband who clearly doesn’t respect their marriage or himself. Just imagine how hard it is for her. Especially if they have children together. She has to figure out whether or not to divorce him. Leave or stay because of the kids. She’s in a much tougher spot than you are and it is so unfortunate that he put her in that situation. You should be thankful that you can make a clean split and never speak to his lying cheating behind again.
Another important tip to helping you move on is to not look to him to give you closure. Come on he’s the one that betrayed you so why look to him for any peace. It’s probably not going to happen. It would be nice if he would admit everything, but most of the time lying cheating men continue to do more lying and cheating. Look to yourself for the closure that you need. Keep a journal. Write down the things you learned about the situation so next time you will be aware of all the signs. Just chalk it up as a lesson learned and remember every great woman has a few heartbreak stories. They help to make us smarter and wiser!