self love

Inspirational Words from Inspirational Queens …Black Girl Nation


“Loving oneself isn’t hard, when you understand who and what ‘yourself’ is. It has nothing to do with the shape of your face, the size of your eyes, the length of your hair or the quality of your clothes. It’s so beyond all of those things and it’s what gives life to everything about you. Your own self is such a treasure.” Phylicia Rashad 


“My greatest beauty secret is being happy with myself. I don’t use special creams or treatments – I’ll use a little bit of everything. It’s a mistake to think you are what you put on yourself. I believe that a lot of how you look is to do with how you feel about yourself and your life. Happiness is the greatest beauty secret.” Tina Turner

“To me, I always felt like I was carrying a torch for women of any size to be themselves – it doesn’t matter whether you’re a size 2 or a 22, just be who you are.” Queen Latifah

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The Power of Your Sexy…Black Girl Nation

There are tons of magazines out there telling us what sexy is. How to look sexy, how to be sexy, how to smell sexy, and so on and so on. Many women don’t realize that sexiness doesn’t have to be overt, because we are told over and over that sexiness is an outside thing. I beg to differ. hust-wilson-372127

Sexiness can be more of a subtleness. That can be more intriguing than the obvious sexiness that we as women oftentimes feel we need to exude. You don’t have to show a man everything that you have. It’s a good thing to leave something to the imagination.

Sexiness can come in the form of your smartness. It can come in the form of your smile, your humor, or your inner beauty and strength. It can be in the way that  you walk, and in your confidence. Sexiness comes in the package that you choose to create.

Be You…Do You…Black Girl Nation

people-2584164_1920 As women we have pressure on us from society and negative people who always have something to say, for us to be more of something. Ads on television bombard us with how to be more thin, how to be more beautiful, how to me more of this or more of that. People have opinions on what they think you should be. How about choosing to be just more of who God created you to be?

God created each of us individuals to be more than enough, but we have allowed society and the other people tell us different. We have allowed other peoples standards and opinions define us. You don’t have to live by anyone else’s standards other than the ones you have set for your own life.  The only person that can define you is the one starting back at you in the mirror. As long as that person and the man upstairs approves of who you are, other people’s opinion will never hold any weight.

Your Royal Highness…Black Girl Nation

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You are a queen. A queen knows her worth at all times. She values herself, appreciates others, and exudes confidence, never arrogance. A queen accepts her flaws, because she knows there is no such thing as perfection. A queen demands respect, because she always gives it in return. A queen knows that her destiny is pointing in the direction of greatness. A queen moves with class and grace. She’s royalty so it’s the only way she knows how to move. So now that you know you are a queen everyday make it your business to think like a queen, know that you’re beautiful like a queen, and to move in the direction of a queen.

Mr. Wrong Don’t Live Here Anymore …Black Girl Nation


He hurt you. He lied to you. He cheated. He did you wrong and broke your heart. Instead of allowing your heart to heal, you have held on to the hurt that he caused. From relationship to relationship you have carried the pain he has put you through. One bad ex  has had this much power in your life for so long. Maybe that should change. As a matter of fact, it has to change. It’s not even an option.

If you want to find the right one you have to open up your heart to the possibility of learning to love again, and you can’t do that until you put behind you the hurt from your last relationship. Not every man is out there to break your heart and do you wrong. There are plenty of good men out there waiting on good women. Don’t let anyone tell you any different.

In order for Mr. Right to come into your life, you have to let go of Mr. Wrong. You cannot allow what Mr. Wrong did to you five years ago affect your new relationships. You are giving him too much power! He’s not worth it. A queen like you deserves the best, and in order to find the best, you have to be at your best. Being at your best includes letting go of bitterness and hurt form a man who never deserved you in the first place.

Add an Accessory from Your Mental Wardrobe…Black Girl Nation

cropped-6a9574_1c02d9ce127f44ceb66a4ee739f3d7c6.jpgWhat do you put on daily?

If it’s hot outside do you like to wear sandals, or have a favorite maxi dress that you like to put on?

When it cold do you put on a scarf to match your outfit, or do you like to wear a nice pair of boots?

Do you have a lipstick that you love to wear that makes you feel pretty?

Everyday you put things on the outside that make us up and present us in a pretty package. But, have you ever thought about adding new things to your wardrobe?

I’m not talking about something you can buy. I’m talking about adding things to your mental wardrobe? One of the things ever woman needs to add to her mental wardrobe is confidence. Without your confidence that outfit you took time to put on and make pretty doesn’t matter at all. It doesn’t matter how expensive your red bottoms are, or what latest new outfit you’re rockin for the day.

Being confident is not about that. Superficiality has nothing to do with it.  Confidence is not about convincing other people that you’re enough. It is about reminding yourself that you are beautiful, worthy of love, and made in God’s image.

Confidence is knowing that you don’t need anyone’s approval, but knowing in your heart and mind that you are more than enough. You don’t have to compete with another woman, or try to be better than the next one, because on the inside you will know that you are amazing being you. No one else can do you like you can.

So when you are putting on your outfit for the day, don’t forget to add an accessory from your mental wardrobe. It will make a big difference.

Let Him Go… (Black Girl Nation)

We as women often have a bad habit of holding on to relationships that we should have let go of a long time ago. We often hold on to the hope of what we want the relationship to be instead of accepting the reality of what the relationship actually is. Spending years waiting on a man to finally treat you right is a waste of time. Life is way too short for that.



God created us women to be some very smart creatures. We know good and well when a relationship is done and there is nothing left. Yet we hold on to it for life as if we have nothing else to hold on to. A man who doesn’t love you or treat you right is not worth your time, energy, or love.  Just think about this for a second. How can the right man ever come into your life if you won’t let go of the wrong one?

Let go when it’s wrong. Open up the window and let that negative relationship fly away. Open up your life and your heart to positive energy. There are plenty of good men out there looking for good women, so never settle for less that what you deserve.